LOVE - It's complicated

LOVE, a very special word, close to everyone of us. Why? It’s a very special feeling I guess, a feeling everyone identifies with and relates to that someone very special. Well, Love is a broad term and it has various forms like love between you and your parents, between you and your friends, between you and your pets and so on. I would be talking, or rather writing, about the most complicated form of love, love between a girlfriend and boyfriend (Interesting ha!)

Our generation has really been thinking in quite modern ways, we are chilled out, enjoy our life the way we live, do what we please and also love the way we feel is right, and also, love as many as we like. Your best friend happens to call you up and say, 'You know what, I love her yaar' and one fine day he says, 'I think, I don’t love her anymore. You know that girl in pink. I think I have feelings for her now'.

Internet is a part of our personality now and our personality is rightly captured by social networking sites as well, quite accurately! Facebook gives you an option to set your relationship status to 'It’s Complicated', just an indication that so much is being documented about our personality and the way we think on this immense virtual world of networks that helps people understand you, your interests, your dilemma as well (Its Complicated). Moreover, we don’t mind being complicated about something like Love and display it to our entire social circle.

What is so complicated about Love? Love is perhaps the most genuine feeling, I think. Genuine feelings don’t stem up for everyone, do they? Remember the fake smile which appears on your face when someone from your college, whom you just know a little bit, looks at you or waves at you. On the contrary, remember the thing which you really wanted to possess and your best friend gifts it to you on your birthday and you smile and hug him/her. Well, you remember, don’t you? All I mean is that some feelings are genuine for all of us and Love being one of those, should we have any complications about it?

Love for me is not complicated. Let me put it this way, if I love someone I care about her; I feel possessive at times; I feel insecure at times; I joke, laugh, cry, fight, comfort, understand her which in simple words would mean I share me with her. Being able to share everything with someone is something you just can’t do with everyone. You give away this chance to only a special person and thus, I feel, it can never be complicated (Unless you make it complicated)

What do you think is the most important thing in Love? I feel it is commitment, a quality which is lacking in our generation. Love becomes complicated when we are not really committed to the 'person with whom we are in love'. Some people part ways after being in 'love' for a very long time. The time they spend till they part ways is not an ordinary time, however long or short it may be. That time is very special, something you cherish for your entire life. Those photos, those lovely gifts and greeting cards, the bike ride, the walk on the sea shores-everything is just so special! Relationships should get better, stronger with time, isn’t it? But still, many people part ways even after experiencing such wonderful things. Why? They are no longer committed to each other, I feel. Why should we be committed? We have so many options, don’t we? We can flirt on Orkut, Facebook, Hi5, Yahoo and all, such that we really get a variety of options. Why spend time with just a single person, if we can get a chance with more than one? Life is all about options, right?

Love is a special feeling and the way we deal with it is a matter of worry. We take it for granted, completely! 'Things are not working out between us? Fine, you go your way and I'll go mine' Where is the commitment, isn’t it lacking out here? If things are not working out and are creating problems, we tend to go our own ways. Why do we never try to solve those problems? Maybe we feel that the problems can never be solved! How often have you tried to solve them? How much important to you is the problem being solved? Why worry about these issues when we can part ways and try our luck with someone else, hoping to get a better person in future! I think, we mix up problems with facts. Problems CAN be solved; if they can’t be solved they are facts, not problems! What stops you from doing anything? It’s YOU! What stops you from solving any differences which come up between you and your love? Commitment!

I feel we should start realizing the importance of commitment. We can’t take love for granted; it’s a feeling which should never loose its charm! Something is not working out well between you and her/him, talk about it, be true to yourself and then see if the whole issue can be resolved. Give it your best efforts. Things will turn good again. If they really don’t, only then accept it as a fact and move on. Love can happen more than once, I feel. But it’s you who really know if the feeling of 'love' is genuine or not. Be committed to yourself, your relationships and you'll see the way it enhances your life.

Never give up easily; Who knows, you just might win!